Whether you are a first time mom-to-be or a more experienced mama, pregnancy can bring with it a variety of fears and anxieties. You may find as you journey through your pregnancy, you face new emotions or thoughts that you are not quite sure how to handle (this, at times, can be thanks to those lovely hormones too). Yes, pregnancy is an incredible and amazing experience but I want to make a point to discuss issues that aren’t so ‘magical’ too. Because, after all, every journey has its ups and downs….. this is just to be expected and accepted!
First of all, I want to say that all of these feelings, fears or anxieties are completely normal, whatever they may be for you. The list of possible anxieties is really quite endless; perhaps you’ve had past miscarriages, trouble conceiving or carry for a genetic disorder (like me!). Maybe you are worrying about how a new baby will affect your relationship with your partner, maybe you’ll be embarking on this journey as a single parent, perhaps your financial situation isn’t ideal, anxieties about how baby may affect your older child or perhaps you feel worried about how your body will change with pregnancy.
Whatever the worry, acknowledging it and trying to take a positive outlook has been my goal. We are taught by society and our physicians to create an ideal physical environment for our babies-to-be, but it is equally important (in my opinion) to create positive energetic environments for them as well. I have found two tools that have really helped me to allow my anxieties to dissipate and I was inspired to share them here.
The first technique comes from the amazing book by Aviva Jill Romm (MD and midwife) called, The Natural Pregnancy Book: Herbs, Nutrition and Other Holistic Choices. Her visualization techniques have proved so useful to me and they really take no more than 10-15 minutes – or really however long you wish to spend with them.
I suggest trying to do this every night before bed until the worry is no longer with you. You can also close your eyes on a break at work or on the subway ride home etc if your anxieties are making an appearance. Here is what I do, feel free to make this your own by changing the details to suit you.
Close your eyes. Make sure you are comfortable. Focus on allowing your breath to become deeper and your muscles to relax. Envision yourself sitting on a beach. You feel completely at home here, safe and relaxed. You feel a gentle breeze kissing your face and the sun warm on your skin. Allow your toes to sink into the sand and listen to the sound of the waves as the tide slowly comes in. When you are ready, envision yourself writing your anxiety or fear into the sand with your finger. “I fear my baby might not be healthy” or “I fear I am not prepared to be a good mother” or “I fear I wont be able to provide for my child” or “I fear that I will hate my body” ~ whatever your fear, write it slowly in the sand. Look at the words and take them in. Really take them in. Now, allow the tide to gradually come in, getting closer and closer to your toes. As it moves towards you, it begins to wash away the words … carrying your fear out into to the ocean. Allow the waves to carry your fears back out into the universe and to replace them with love and positivity. Allow this love and positivity to wash over your toes. Make sure to take the time to acknowledge how the water has carried away your words of anxiety and left behind clean, clear sand. Take a deep breath in…. and out… feel the weight of your anxieties lift. Allow yourself to fall into a restful sleep, you and baby surrounded by love and positivity.
My second suggestion is a guided meditation by Andrew Johnson. He has a variety of meditations available for iPhone (and for most other smartphones I think), all of which I absolutely love. His pregnancy meditation really just focuses on allowing you to relax deeply and connect with your baby. This is infinitely important. From the very beginning of my pregnancy, my supervisor at the Robert Schad Naturpathic Clinic suggested that I connect with and talk to my baby (on an energetic level). It has been one of the most valuable pieces of advice I have had thus far. It is truly an incredible thing to be able to connect with another being before he/she has even entered the world. And to be honest, for me, the more I connected to my baby the smaller and smaller any of my fears and anxieties became. The app I am suggesting is 2.99 and is well worth it! It can be found by searching “Positive Pregnancy with Andrew Johnson.” I enjoy guided mediation because even if you drift off and allow your mind to wander, some part of your subconscious is still taking in the meditation.
Remember that all new paths, no matter how exciting, may at times feel uneasy or scary. This is all part of the learning curve, all part of our own growth and discovery. Best of luck as always, xo.
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